The hook-up. No, not as in "I want to hook up with that hottie from the gym" (like I would ever say that). I mean, as in "I want to hook you up with this guy from my grad school class." That's what a co-worker called to tell me earlier this summer. Yes, that hook-up. It's probably the 'How to Meet a Guy' tactic that I've used the least, but I couldn't get any more single if I tried, and I have nothing to lose.
Her classmate and I had a brief, as in like 15 seconds, phone conversation about a month ago. But today we had our first real talk. Does anyone else out there dread the first words you have with a potential mate? Well, not really dread them, but recognize that they can be awkward, kind of uncomfy? Especially when those first words are exchanged over a phone line. You're unable to be reassured by the occasional head nod and/or smile (or even lack thereof). You're doing your best to balance the conversation - a little about me, a little about him. What questions are best to ask? To avoid? Oooooooooh, maybe I shouldn't have told him that I used to frequent a certain strip club in Windsor during my undergrad years.
After 11+ years in the dating game, I've had this first conversation over and over and over and over. Yet it never gets any easier. This conversation is filled with hope, surrounded by curiosity, and even peppered with skepticism. Yet, it's necessary in order to move on with your newest guy. Now that we've exchanged our first words, we're now free to embark upon our first everything else.
*Update: 08/12/07*
He never called again; guess he was put off by my strip club story! Oh well, life will go on. :)
**Update: 08/28/07**
He sent me a text today. Random! Stay tuned...
***Update: 10/13/07***
We met for dinner! But I think he has a g/f. Damn!
****Update: 08/11/10****
He's engaged; just not to me.
Her classmate and I had a brief, as in like 15 seconds, phone conversation about a month ago. But today we had our first real talk. Does anyone else out there dread the first words you have with a potential mate? Well, not really dread them, but recognize that they can be awkward, kind of uncomfy? Especially when those first words are exchanged over a phone line. You're unable to be reassured by the occasional head nod and/or smile (or even lack thereof). You're doing your best to balance the conversation - a little about me, a little about him. What questions are best to ask? To avoid? Oooooooooh, maybe I shouldn't have told him that I used to frequent a certain strip club in Windsor during my undergrad years.
After 11+ years in the dating game, I've had this first conversation over and over and over and over. Yet it never gets any easier. This conversation is filled with hope, surrounded by curiosity, and even peppered with skepticism. Yet, it's necessary in order to move on with your newest guy. Now that we've exchanged our first words, we're now free to embark upon our first everything else.
*Update: 08/12/07*
He never called again; guess he was put off by my strip club story! Oh well, life will go on. :)
**Update: 08/28/07**
He sent me a text today. Random! Stay tuned...
***Update: 10/13/07***
We met for dinner! But I think he has a g/f. Damn!
****Update: 08/11/10****
He's engaged; just not to me.
2 comments:
Honey Maybe your thinking about this just a lil to much be free with it let those dreds down be who you are...from knowing you, your funny intelligent sexy outgoing your a package trust if i wasnt in my situation i would holla...your a catch to sum this up and the man for you is out there just let him find you...sometimes in out search we tend toover look that person thats in front of us...and before we can let someone into our life we first must ask ourself IS MY SHIT TOGETHER...then read off that checklist in which we look for in a person, now ask yourself are you all the things that you want in a mate?
I agree with Ralique, be yourself! You are too fun to be around to change it up for some man. If he doesn't like the real you, you would probably HATE being with him! I think you're great and the man you choose to be with should think it too! You don't want me fighting the groom at your wedding, just keep that in mind.
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