9/3/11 - Grad school/having a full-time job, combined with the most stressful dating experience of my life (see post from 09/02/11), combined with a major position in a volunteer organization, caused a year-long hiatus in contributing to this blog.
I logged on today to edit another post and found that I began this one over a year ago. After reading it a few times, it looks like it was supposed to be 'The Top Ten Mistakes Men Make When Posting a Profile on an Online Dating Site' or something like that. Five things are listed, but it seems as if I just forgot to come back to finish the list. But since I no longer use the services of online dating sites, I actually can't come up with 5 other mistakes. So I'll change the numbers and still publish the list anyway, but as a Top 5. So here it goes...
Originally written on 8/13/11
5. Self-portraits taken with a cell (or any other picture taking device) in the mirror.
- That's quite lame. Next time you're out having fun somewhere, ask a friend - or even a complete stranger - to take a picture of you!
4. Mentioning God
- I believe in our creator just as much as the next person. But I'm automatically weary about anyone who feels the need to talk about Him right away.
3. No picture
- Online dating is already a crap shoot. But in craps at least I get to see what the dice look like before I roll 'em.
2. Mentioning your sex drive
- You're a man; of course your sex drive is high!
1. Misspeling Werdz
- First, I think all online dating sites should come with a spell-check option and clear directions about how to use it. But if you are going to misspell words, don't do ironic ones like 'collge'.
Friday, August 13, 2010
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
I date men who want to get married...just not to me!
1/10 of my weekday morning routine is to sit down at my desktop in nothing but my shower wrap. With the news in the background, I open up Facebook and catch up on the status updates and such that came through overnight. The site also tells me which friends are celebrating birthdays. I go to each person's page and leave them a quick message. While going through these motions the other day, I left the usual greetings for a guy I used to date. (The same guy I talked about in the post 'First Words'.) Before leaving, I looked at the left-hand side and...
Is engaged to _________.
Ugh! Really?!
He moved from Atlanta over a year ago and I knew I'd never see or talk to him again away from FB. I had no problems with that - as long as he was 'single'. (Meaning not engaged nor married. ) But for the second time in just a few months, I had to sever a Facebook friendship with a former flame due to his status change.
Okay, I'll admit it - I date men who want to get married...just not to me! But I'm finally at a point in my life where I don't think it's necessarily me that's the issue - despite me being the least common denominator.
In one of my favorite Sex and the City episodes, Samantha compares men to taxis. She's referencing the belief that when men are (finally, it seems) open to the idea of dating long-term/getting married, they'll 'turn their light on'. Whomever enters their life next is subjected to the possibility of making a man want to change their relationship status on Facebook. But if the light is flipped to the off position, there's little to nothing a girl can do to advance the relationship any further than the (dreaded, for me) 'kickin it' phase.
After many years of dating, I am a believer in Samantha's theory. Of course many people believe they are great catches; I definitely do. But I have yet to get past one year of dating the same guy, despite all of my awesome qualities. It makes me feel better to think that I just have not hailed a guy who's light was on. So until I do, I'm going to enjoy this solo cab ride and do my best to be happy for him, despite the fact that his light came on after I arrived at my stop.
Is engaged to _________.
Ugh! Really?!
He moved from Atlanta over a year ago and I knew I'd never see or talk to him again away from FB. I had no problems with that - as long as he was 'single'. (Meaning not engaged nor married. ) But for the second time in just a few months, I had to sever a Facebook friendship with a former flame due to his status change.
Okay, I'll admit it - I date men who want to get married...just not to me! But I'm finally at a point in my life where I don't think it's necessarily me that's the issue - despite me being the least common denominator.
In one of my favorite Sex and the City episodes, Samantha compares men to taxis. She's referencing the belief that when men are (finally, it seems) open to the idea of dating long-term/getting married, they'll 'turn their light on'. Whomever enters their life next is subjected to the possibility of making a man want to change their relationship status on Facebook. But if the light is flipped to the off position, there's little to nothing a girl can do to advance the relationship any further than the (dreaded, for me) 'kickin it' phase.
After many years of dating, I am a believer in Samantha's theory. Of course many people believe they are great catches; I definitely do. But I have yet to get past one year of dating the same guy, despite all of my awesome qualities. It makes me feel better to think that I just have not hailed a guy who's light was on. So until I do, I'm going to enjoy this solo cab ride and do my best to be happy for him, despite the fact that his light came on after I arrived at my stop.
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